I've noticed that when people get D, they seem to soon after get into another R and don't continue to work on themselves. In the flush of a new R everything seems rosy but then the old problems start to crop up.
I can totally see that happening. I need to keep that in mind and focus on bettering myself for a lot longer. I want my changes to stick.
Originally Posted By: labug
Take your time, divorce court will always be there.
I just don't want to be in a position of limbo. If it's done, it's done. I have absolutely no hope left that W is coming back the marriage. With no hope, it's hard to stick it out. I am honestly at the point where I am really questioning if I would even want her back after the emotional damage that she has caused me. She has made it more than clear that her commitment to marriage is not what I need from a wife...I would like to look 20-30-40 years into the future, not simply, "will she leave me next month or the one after if things get bad again". My trust in her loyalty and willingness to work on a relationship is completely gone. I don't think I would ever be able to trust her again. Prior to BD, I trusted her with my life.....literally.
