Thanks for the words of support uRworthy. I like how you capitalized the R in your name to clear up confusion. That's new, right? I know some readers would mistake it for unworthy.
Ok, so I woke up in a serious mood this morning, and got to thinking. Shortly after BD my wife told me she would like to date other men, and find true passion for once in her life. Hmmm, ok. One time she even suggested that we could have an open marriage, and/or maintain a sham marriage for the family! I told her no, that wouldn't work. I wonder if she remembers saying this.
Since I know she likes gifts, and it's been a while since I got her anything, I thought maybe I would get her the old Milton Bradley board game, Mystery Date!
You ladies here about my age remember what I'm talking about. In this game, girls open the door to reveal their mystery date. Will he be a dream? Or a Dud?
I even remember part of the song from the TV commercial for this game.
Mystery Date... Are you ready for your mystery date!
Ok, I must confess, I would totally rig the door so that it would only reveal a Dud! Heehee
In other news, tonight is my first TKD class! I will begin with payment, wavier signing and orientation, but I do still expect to still get at least a partial training session in. Very exciting!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
Ok, so I woke up in a serious mood this morning, and got to thinking. Shortly after BD my wife told me she would like to date other men, and find true passion for once in her life. Hmmm, ok. One time she even suggested that we could have an open marriage, and/or maintain a sham marriage for the family! I told her no, that wouldn't work. I wonder if she remembers saying this.
Hi FY!
Where DO they get these scripts, anyway? I was just thinking this morning about a 3-day B&B "save the M" get away my H & I took October 2011. It felt awkward but we had an overall pleasant time. During that time away, he told me that if I had already found "someone else" he would be long gone. And the two passions he desired to pursue were: a) drinking at bars late at night whenever he wanted and b) sleeping with OW's.
I also heard about the open M idea....but he wanted it for himself; he didn't want me to have that same opportunity!
Well...recently he recalled that B&B getaway during MC and told the C what a great time we had!! Lol!!
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In other news, tonight is my first TKD class! I will begin with payment, wavier signing and orientation, but I do still expect to still get at least a partial training session in. Very exciting!
So today....you'll have class!! Yay! Hope it goes well and you fly smoothly through any unforeseen difficulties!
I don't remember the game, "Mystery Date". Can't wait for W to return home emotionally. You'll have lots of special surprises for her, no doubt
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
W doesn't remember much at all of what she said around BD, and most of afterwards, seems par for the course with the mlc'er. She said similar, stay married for the kids and taxes, but she would have her own relationships and that what I needed was to NOT be involved with any women...and then that morphed into something else, and then it morphed again, and so forth.
Personally, I would choose a more "safe" game, I wouldn't want to remind W or give W any "ideas" right now...lol. She had PLENTY of her own then, most of which she has forgotten...I want to leave them in forgotten mode... The game idea IS funny though...
Good luck with the class, I am sure you'll do great! T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
I can echo all of the above on the BD speech. She kept saying she missed out on dating. It's still the one part of her speech that I took to mean mlc. Dating! Seriously?
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
Hi FY, just saw what you posted to me. Yes, I had to capitalize the R as people on here did think it was unworthy and chastized me for feeling that way! LOL!
I had the game Mystery Date. It was one of my favorites! I think you are playing with us a bit. Haha!
They dont remember most of what they said while in crisis. Unfortunately, we remember all of it.
Good for you for the TKD. Let us know how it goes.
I had the game Mystery Date. It was one of my favorites! I think you are playing with us a bit. Haha!
I'm glad to hear you thought it was funny. That's what it was supposed to be, but I'm afraid I may have been a bit too subtle, and got myself in trouble. Oh well.
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They dont remember most of what they said while in crisis. Unfortunately, we remember all of it.
I guess this is both good and bad. There were quite a few really hurtful things said. Some things, that upon careful examination just could not have been true. Even so, it was reality for her, so I must deal with it. Maybe it really is best if she forgets some of these comments!
I consider myself lucky for a spouse of a MLC'er. W is cold and distant, and sometimes easily aggravated, but does not often spew at me, and no longer seems to blame me for her dissatisfaction of her life. This means she is progressing, right?
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Good for you for the TKD. Let us know how it goes.
The class has been going as well or even better than I had ever hoped! I have 10 students, and have held two sessions so far. Everyone is very excited about it... lots of positive comments. Even people not in the class are coming up to me and commenting about it. This has really helped to build my self esteem, which actually wasn't doing all that bad to begin with.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
My W gave me a variation on your BD talk. That she wants passion etc etc. My W got obsessed with the twighlight saga films a few months prior to BD. I did wonder if she had got into the whole forbidden love thing and wonder if it fuelled her fantasy.
I have given up thinking about it all now. None of it makes sense. There are some truths, hald truths and complete falsifications in what W said at BD so I have taken what I can from the speech and worked on it.
Glad to hear the TKD classes are getting going. Good luck with that.
I guess this is both good and bad. There were quite a few really hurtful things said. Some things, that upon careful examination just could not have been true. Even so, it was reality for her, so I must deal with it. Maybe it really is best if she forgets some of these comments!
With my W, if she remembered all she said and did, I think it would be too much for her to try to seek forgiveness, she wouldn't be able to live with herself, and probably would run again...and that is not the goal here, is it?
I think that they remember what they really need to, eventually, in their own time, when they are more ready to deal with it, idk.
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
