By EE changing me, I mean that I will actively participate, be open, not block off things. Being a passive spectator will probably change nothing.
correction...being a passive PERSON or spectator will absolutely positively change NOTHING.
If you hear something in another person's comments, that hits a chord in you (and you WILL), it'll be up to you to learn what to do about it.
I also hope that the EE group will facilitate personal change. ^^that is the main purpose of EE, imo. FACILITATING change...
which To ME, EE helps you to learn how to live a life of clarity and intent.
I don't think it is necessarily clear how to live - Montaigne devoted a whole, famous book to this. We have new immigrants here in Sweden, for example, that don't know what is possible for them (go weightlifting? ride bikes? etc.) and I think something similar - horizon widening - is possible for everyone.
Point taken on the self esteem. Hopefully the IC won't just say pablum "you are worth it intrinsically". at some level you will need to believe you deserve to be happy, but that it's not owed to you. You deserve it but you make it. Aristotle said "happiness is a virtue" b/c he knew it required effort.
Again, did you get anything out of the Carol Story I posted to you?
Why not see a presumed expert on personal change, such as an IC? I don't understand your problem with this. Shall I read personal change books by myself and not ask for external support?
For some, IC's are great. THey don't hurt. I have had 2 excellent ones...of maybe 6...no one made things worse for ME individually.
just got a lot more out of an intense long weekend than a weekly session could provide. I'd make a "breakthru" or have an insight and then have to switch brains and go to work or pick up the kids.
It's not that "efficient", comparatively. But I don't think it's harmful. HOWEVER in marriage counselling, it seems more than half of MCs are there, to support the departing partner. Maybe they ought to call themselves "divorce counsellors"
but otoh, many folks need to attend marriage counselling BEFORE they want to end their marriage.
Using car maintanance and repairs as an analogy, more couples, ought to attend marriage counselling or Encounter weekends for tune ups, instead of when the whole "car" breaks down and looks like it's a total loss.
(again, the Encounters are more intense than weekly counselling sessions. I think the continuity of a long weekend makes a huge difference in what you learn and what sinks in AND what you see modelled that you need to emulate)
I do things with my kids, cook, ski, hang out, used to read a lot to them, still bring them books. Yes, I feel isolated from them, but how do I get closer? I would like to have a role model for this - .
Luke
you may have to create a role model for that.
But you will learn pieces of it at EE...
connect with Kaffe Diem and we can connect on the alt universe and chat, privately about it, if you want.
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