"I have tried at various times to try and reconnect emotionally with my wife"

How? Have you done so in a consistent manner? What did she tell you?

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER