More updates.
I met a guy yesterday who lives in that town where my H is living now. He has known us for a few years, he was never a friend, but we were at the same parties quite often. He said that he doesn’t know the details about our R, but he thinks that my H is crazy. He said that all other people we know have the same opinion – that he is crazy to give up the wife like me. This guy also said that my H has been drinking heavily, that he didn’t see him drinking like that before. He also said that my H is hanging around “wrong” people. When I asked him about one woman (she is married) and her sister and mentioned that I saw them behaving like the teenagers (doing stupid, crazy stuff, trying to have a lot of fun) he said this was exactly what he was trying to say. He also mentioned that even though it looks like my H is having fun, he doesn’t look very happy. He suggested that my H is going through MLC, LOL. He said that he himself went through something similar to MLC, but it was that dramatic. Well, this guy was already divorced at a time. His wife had an affair and left him. So, he didn’t need to walk away from the family or a wife.

After this guy gave me so many compliments about how good I looked despite the situation and that I seem to be handing this very well and that I will be just fine, I told him that I came to the terms with my H not wanting to be with me again and looking for a better wife. To which the guy said that my H will not be successful, especially considering the crowd he is hanging around with. He also said that my H doesn’t have anybody right now.

This conversation made me think that my H actually does have signs of MLC, since other people notice it too. But the weird part is that when I talk to H he sounds very reasonable and even the same as always. Then I think that there are comments he makes that are so strange. I don’t know why I’m so fixated on this.

I’m trying to convince myself that this is over and I need to prepare for D. But something inside of me is resisting.


M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state