Glad to give you my answers. I hope it can help, even just a little.
I wasn't stringing him along, I really meant it. I didn't date the whole time we were apart. I only started looking when I found out about OW. I've always kept my married name, I eventually changed it on Facebook, again only after OW. I felt lost and we tried to make it work together, twice. I saw the only solution we had left was to work on things apart. I said from the beginning that I needed a break & that *maybe* we could get to the point where we could date...
When he sent me the closure message, it took me by surprise. I had had some career instability and was looking at moving halfway across the country - and he never said 'boo!'. I was sure he didn't care anymore. But I really wasn't ready to say 'Sure, let's try again' - so I felt like I should let him go. Letting him go made him feel free, but made me start to miss him more.
It's one of the hardest parts of my current sitch! A year ago he would've done anything to get me back home, and now that he can, he's not sure!
