Quote: Careful Z, thats that PRESSURE that creeps in and sets you back, thus earning you the response..
I left out the part where he said, "Yes" and just gave you the "but." I already knew the answer before I asked, just like I knew he'd agree to go to counseling, because here on the ground it's evident to both of us that it's time to talk.
You're right that he comes arunnin' every time I tell him I'm at the limit, but it's more than manipulative, it can get downright tiresome. That's why I never say it unless I mean it. I'm at the point where I can outline the things that I want in the R. If he can't do it, he can go.
A hug and an apology at the end of an argument is (believe it or not) a HUGE improvement from how my H and I are used to ending arguments. In fact, cut off the argument above at the end of the first paragraph, and you would have the unsatisfactory end to four years of arguments. I actually feel a little liberated today. --z
