First, you are very early in this whole journey. So, my first advice is to take care of yourself. Eat, sleep (even if you need sleep-aids), and get a C for YOU, if you feel it will help you through this.
GAL is tough, but necessary. I am just now getting started w this in the past month (I'm 10 months in since BD). But, it does feel GOOD to participate in an interest-new or old, and to meet new friends/people.
Also, when your mind insists on focusing on your sitch (which I'm guessing is pretty much non-stop at this point) think about things you need to do to improve yourself as a person (180s). Anything your W complained about in the past? ANything you already know is maybe a weak area for you? We all have things we can do to grown & become better people. Really think about these things and start making changes NOW.
Whenever you do talk to or see your W try to be as upbeat as possible and LISTEN anytime she talks to you. Listen and validate. Don't argue or discuss her feelings.
That's all for now. Welcome here, BTW--it is the best place to be for all of us right now.
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
