Sounds like more of the same, talk...talk...debate...
Actually, I chuckled a little at..
Quote: "It hasn't been a year"..He moved out in November of 2002..Hello?!?
Too funny, I'm visualizing your expression..
Quote: I decided I wasn't hungry anymore and just set out one plate. Somehow, me not wanting to eat got him very upset. He gave me a big hug and apolgized for upsetting me. Huh?
Actually, it has nothing to do with you not wanting to eat, it has everything to do with him sensing you're pulling away from him because then he gets a little nervous when you STOP your convincing. He didn't give you a big hug because he you were right about anything the two of you discussed, he was worried that you we're pulling away, and like I've said a million times, when they sense you're letting go in even the slightest manner, they will come back towards you, IF they like you. I'll bet you a casserole that had you continued to argue and put two plates out, the probability is there is no hug. Its not until you more or less threw your hands up and gave up, does he quickly come to your side, because he senses you're putting up the white flag for the evening. Its as old as time, push 'em away a little and they come right towards you. After 13 months, maybe there is logic in "letting go to get where you eventually want to be.."
Quote: This morning I asked him if he thought we were ready to talk.
Careful Z, thats that PRESSURE that creeps in and sets you back, thus earning you the response..
Quote: He said that after last night he wasn't so sure.
Of course he's not sure, I'd have reacted the same way. He wants to decide when he's ready to "get things out in the open", he probably doesn't prefer it be suggested or he'd be the first do the suggesting..
You know what they say..an ounce of common sense can lead to a pound of cure..LOL
