CB, I had a similar instance a couple of months ago. I was working with my employee and after it was over I felt like I should tell him things weren't good at home, leave it at that. I feel obligated because I am not the supervisor I was. Somedays work isn't a priority to me and I know they recognize it.
Anyway, he says something like it happens to lots of good people and hoped we were able to work things out. Nice, end of story, right. Nope! He continued with, who knows you might be like my brother and get a D and then remarry her a year later. Wait, what?
Here was the story. ExW and brother were the perfect couple. ExW goes crazy. Talks about missing out on life, partying all night, changes the way she dressed, etc. They end up D. Brother starts life with a new lady one month after D is final. Within a week, exW sends a birthday card to her exFIL. Then sends cards or calls other family members over a period of weeks/months. Soon starts asking about brother. Then starts calling brother. Year later they're remarried and happy as can be.
My employee says, we don't trust her. We think she came back to inherit the farm. I asked why they thought that. He says, she hated working on the farm before but now she drives a tractor when we work in the hay. She loves it. I said something like, "I bet she thinks your brother walks on water now." He looked at me and said, how did you know. Told him about mlc. He couldn't believe it. They're story fit perfect. His brother had heard how she never loved him, back and forth on leaving, etc. Reconnected with others before brother. All of it.
He left saying he was going to be nicer to her.
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
