Hi, Just a quick update on my sitch but no real movement although it certainly has not got any worse.
Another financial issue popped its head up today. Turns out W was late notifying the benefits office back in August 2011 when I changed jobs so they have come after us both for a large sum of overpaid money. I can't really blame W as I should have taken responsibility for this. The old me would have complained to W about this. The new me has taken ownesrship to get it resolved. A positive is that we have been working together via e-mail to make a case against the full amount as there are a number of inaacuracies with the benefits office assessment. This resulted in some light hearted e-mail banter.
W also notified me out of the blue that she had forgot to submit her own benefits claim on time for our S disability benefits which she gets. It will now be a minimum of 8 weeks for them to process the new application! I have showed empathy but not offered any money as my view is she needs to take ownership of her own actions. However, I will not let them suffer if she really is struggling and on Monday will offer her a loan to tide her over if needed as I don't want S to lose out.
I have taken on a couple of new activities that I managed to squeeze in. Joined a running club on the same night I have my horse riding lesson but earlier in the evening.
Also took up playing guitar again (I used to play in bands when I was younger) which has been a nice stress relief and an old bandmate has asked if I would like to set a band up with him again! Not sure I could commit to the time or play gigs again but I am giving it some thought.
Communication with W still okay, no arguments, no crossed words etc and I have been varying the time I spend at her place when dropping S things off to just to make me a bit more unpredictable.
My new image has gone down a storm and have had numerous nice comments from people about how much younger I look. A colleague even said a woman at work asked him who that handsome chap was as she didnt recognise me without the beard
