Do not leave your home and do not help her pack up her belongings. She will need to face the consequences of her actions all by herself.
Once she leaves, check w/your lawyer and ask about changing the locks. Mlcers just love to return to the home while you are out and take things. You may not even notice the items gone until you need them. That happened to me a few times until the locks were changed.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
In similar situation, W wants "space" and wants me to leave. Says she cannot get house on her own and it will be "easier" for all involved if I am the one to go. She feels that because she has been SAHM for past 14 years it's only fair that she "....get to keep the home she made."
Even given this, I still think if she is the one who wants to leave the M she should be the one to go. I am concerned about what would happen if she files though.
Additional thoughts or comments anyone?
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork
Not sure what the laws are where you are. But if W can claim she was a sahm then they can get a bigger proportion. But could not imagine it would be the whole house.
We don't own much equity in our house so when we sell (I'd love to stay if I could afford it) we will split equity 50/50.
Well that's how we have agreed so far in our initial talks after BD
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
That's probably best answered by a lawyer familiar with your state's laws, and it is prudent to consult one just to discover what your rights are, what the process is, the costs, etc, etc.
Knowledge is power, know your field position and the terrain, etc...
I am not sorry I consulted one, what I learned helped me take a huge unknown out of my life, and we have quite enough of those at the moment, eh?
Hope it doesn't go there, but plan.... T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
Yeah, I've been putting this off and I really need to speak to somebody. I am 100% certain we will be divorcing before there is even a small chance of W thinking she has made a mistake. For her sake I hope I am still her waiting for her!
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
