Have been on this Board before and found it very helpful. I have not posted that often as my Limbo situation has not changed much. The Bomb was dropped on me almost 3.5 years ago but we are still together even though she was involved with OM for part of this timeframe.
We communicate on a daily basis, mostly about our 3 kids and work related topics. We have not had a relationship talk in over a year. Very much a state of Limbo. Whats bothering me recently is that she is now starting to exclude me from social events that in the past we would have went to as a family or couple. For example friends of ours had a 25 year wedding anniversary party last year which she did not tell me about and simply snuck off to without stating where she was going. I found out through a mutual friend at work what had taken place. This has happened three times over the past 6 months. Next weekend is a wedding for a daughter of one of our friends. My wife has not mentioned the wedding to me and has not yet indicated that she is going or what her plans are etc. I know about the wedding though my co-worker.
I feel that I need to put an end to this situation , it is one thing to not want to work on the marriage, but to not be upfront about what she is doing and where she is going does not leave me with a good feeling based on past involvement with OM. Any thoughts from folks as to whether I just let this pass, or do I need to question her on why and what her plans maybe going forward. She has not made any direct statement as to whether she is planning to stay or leave.
It seems to me that if she does not want to include me in these events then there is really no more hope in trying to address the stalemate in our marriage. Maybe its time to move on.
