AnotherStander, Yes, that is the main reason why i'm done because of the kids and what she's done to me aswell. The kids are from a previous marriage of mine. She was extremely close with them before our first breakup prior to our M, But after that was never really the same. I've only came to this conclusion this week. She's been steadfast about the divorce and in PA there's only a 90 day cool off period, so everything could be final by June/July.
Sandi2 I do not know if she left for OM, It was her friends with benefit guy that she was with before we meet. After our first breakup. I snooped and found that she had been talking to him for about a month prior. The second time 6 months after we were married to my knowledge there was no other man. This time she hasn't looked back still denies theres someone else. Just says i don't know what I'm talking about.
I do love my wife. But after multiple therapist and doctors have told me she has issues that she needs to work on or she will continue to run. I find myself constantly worrying about her and I feel I shouldn't be. This is her choice not mine.
I also don't think that reality has set in for her because she still wants to be friends, ive given here money when she needs it. And she's in lala land about how things will be after the D is final.
The OM has just as much debt apparently as her from school loans, Has no good paying job and I think still lives with his parents. And she's giving up a loving husband, house, financial stability for what?
Me:34 W:26 Together:5yrs M:6/4/11 1st bomb 11/11 2nd bomb 1/21/13 W files for D 3/18/13 She's living with her mom S:13 Previous marriage S:11 Previous marriage She has OM Previous FWB
