To contest or not to contest

[jaytee35]

Sandi, Not sure what you mean by stick to one thread?? Please explain because I would like to get the best responses possible.

Shiss, Exactly my point. the only thing I really understand is that we need to seperate the emotional seperation from the legal seperation. And honestly that is what I am starting to understand. I am not contesting to make her mad or "get back at her". I am contesting because due to my sitch and circumstances I do not believe she has grounds for divorce and I also feel thier are some financials that I am entitled to. I am pretty much under the mindset that if she wants the divorce then she needs to hold herself accountable for it. So if that means financially then so be it. I do not want the divorce at all, but I do feel I have to protect myself. I have heard two sides to this. One person on here said to negotiate and get it over with while the other person said that if oyou negotiate to make her happy then it makes you look like a coward and they will lose respect for you.

I am a little confused but I think I have decided to hold her acountable for the divorce. I do like the idea of agreeing to the divorce but not "helping" it along.

Therefore, I am still hoping for reconciliation and going dark at this point but I am also deciding to protect myself in the legal preceedings

Seperate Legal / Emotional