Struggling and need help

[CharlieBrown]

Interesting how God places people in your world when you need them. A couple days ago a friend I hadn't seen for about 8 years contacted me and said he would be in town, was it ok to stop by the office. He came this morning and we were in my office for about 2 hours talking. He went through a divorce about 8 years ago. He suspected she was having an A and after BD, he pursued hard, confronted her with evidence, and pushed her more into the A. He said the only time he saw a change was after 8 months, he went out on a few dates and she all of a sudden started to try to reconcile. He ended up marrying the girl he was dating and is now miserable and likely to file. He walked through lessons learned and after about 1/2 hour he asked how I was doing.

I had intended to not say anything, but I did and gave him the full background. Among his suggestions:

1. Don't pursue. If she emails or texts, respond, but don't do anything that would be viewed as unusual.
2. Don't worry about tattoo-guy. He saw his FB page and the posts W made and he said he is part of her escape fantasy, it is the depression. Even if she meets him next weekend, he is still part of the escape, worry about getting her help for the escape, not the guy.
3. That it is a classic MLC. His sister went through the same thing and ended up in D.
4. When we do have time together, like our date night tonight, make sure it is fun. Clear my mind of the stresses and talk about things other than R.
5. NEVER bring up tattoo-boy.
6. When she goes to Milwaukee next weekend, don't seem nervous, wish her well and tell her to have fun. Then, don't text or call her, unless you would have before.
7. This took a long time to get to this point, it is going to take a long time to reverse itself.

Sound familiar guys? You have all been giving me such great advice!

CB