Irreplaceable

[Takevowsserious]

Thank you, UW. I needed to hear that. And you are special too xoxo

It's a sad and awful feeling to feel discarded - to feel like the whole life we had together, a life that we both wanted, a life that at one time made us both very happy, tossed aside. And for what? I really don't know.

I think in an attempt to feel better and escape the pain. But when that plan doesn't pan out...

How long till they keep running into that brick wall, over and over again?

I have read a lot about affairs, and whether its MLC related or not, there is one common theme - they rarely lead to a long term R.

I found this quote from a M therapist-

"You don't know what it is like to be married to someone until you are married to them."

He goes on to say-

"Remember, too, that being in a torrid love affair is quite different from a long-term committed relationship like a marriage. You don't visit her grandmother, you don't pay taxes with her, you don't raise kids with her, etc. Affairs and marriages are apples and oranges."

I don't know why, but I find reading this kind of info helpful and reassuring.

Let me share something else...

Before my H, I had a serious bf that I dated for ten years. At one point, I thought he was the man I was going to marry. But as they say, that is another story...

He pursued me for quite some time after we broke up. And guess who I was dating then? Yep, good ol' H!

It was almost a year after the break up, and the x was still trying to get me back. And H was not happy about it. At all.

I remember him saying something like, "I am so sick of this, he needs to let it go. But I get where he's coming from, because if I lost you, I do anything to get you back."

I never forgot that. Wonder if that will ever be tested? Hmmmm...

Happy Friday everyone