Portia, this must be very difficult for you. I know I would be very tempted to make contact. But as hard as it is I would stick to what everyone is saying and don't make contact. This could be what is needed in your sitch for him to see he is making a mistake.

Me: 38 W: 35
M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs
S8 D5
BD: Feb 13
Still Living Together

I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.