My L told me that objecting to the D just means fighting through court and ending up just as D but way poorer. For me, it's a complicated question. Do I want a divorce? Heck no.

But I have a husband who does not want to be married to me, does not have any of the characteristics of a husband, and cannot/will not change, has no desire to change, no desire to make a marriage with me. So again, do I want a divorce *from that*? Yes. I don't see value in my life by standing indefinitely for something that doesn't exist anymore.

You can't make H want to stay in a bad marriage, you can't make him want to make it a better marriage. Fighting to make him stay won't keep him. Hang in there. You have a beautiful future ahead of you, no matter what.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.