Email from W below. I didn't ask and received this cold.
"Did not ever start contributing to 401k. Can't now. Using extra money for other stuff. I'm sure you have questions about us and where we are. All I can tell you is that I'm happy with the current situation. I like being friendly with each other and sharing time with our boys, but also having my own time and space. I realize it puts you on hold and if you want to make things more finalized I totally understand."
How to respond???
Mtn, This post may be late, but here’s my take.
First, what’s the rush? Sure you have questions, but it seems you understand that there is no advantage to seeking answers or a quick resolution here. So she’s happy with the current situation. Good. That means no D unless you want it. Do you? I get the feeling you’re ok with a bit of limbo for now.
I hope you didn’t rush to respond to this. If it were me, I would take my time. Then, once we did talk, say something like "I’ve been doing a lot of thinking, just taking things day by day and enjoying my life." No pressure.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
