I have just returned from (female) C - much better than the earlier one. Wants to really understand and get into my head and I like and respect her. Still a great deal too, 30$ for 1.5 hours. She mentioned Asperger's as possibly relevant.
For EE I intend to fully participate - what do I have to lose by doing so? In my last personal growth workshop (for work, a long time ago) I was the first to volunteer for the 'hot seat' exercise (and where I was given my Lucky Luke name).
I have been here for a long time, so it is hard to remember all the suggestions given on this forum. I have stopped pursuing. I have dared to go upstairs. I have confronted my wife a few weeks ago, with a compromise as the outcome.
I have asked my wife out. I have read Cunningham and other books. I am going to EE. I have sought out (now two) counselors.
No, I am not a brave, conflict hardened person, but can occasionally muster the courage to do small, for me daring, things. The scariest thing is to directly deal with my W. I vaguely resent the idea that I have only been passive, and done nothing, but understand. I hope to report good things from EE.
Thanks,
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
