Email from W below. I didn't ask and received this cold.
"Did not ever start contributing to 401k. Can't now. Using extra money for other stuff. I'm sure you have questions about us and where we are. All I can tell you is that I'm happy with the current situation. I like being friendly with each other and sharing time with our boys, but also having my own time and space. I realize it puts you on hold and if you want to make things more finalized I totally understand."
How to respond???
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later