Sorry. That's because I'm on moderation again. Not sure why.
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W has been very distant since my return home. She left as soon as I got here. Not so much as a hello. I've also noticed that she won't look me in the eye. Very hard not to call her on it. What a fool she is.
Been there, done that. One time I positioned myself directly in front of my wife, looked into her eyes and smiled real big. She made an ugly face and stuck her tongue out at me! Note to self: that didn’t work! (I didn't expect it would, but I refuse to walk around on eggshells in my home around MY W.)
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I don't know guys. This might be too hard for me. I'm not sure i can get past a PA.
I’m with you on this. Physical touch is my PLL and my W already cut that off. Her giving it to another man would be the nail in the coffin, I think. If I find out about a PA I will ask her to end it. If, after a while she does not, I will ask her to leave the marriage home, on the grounds that it is disrespectful to me and our M. If she does not, I will commence cutting back on the benefits I provide by being her H. If she’s in love with OM, he can provide that. I would not initiate D, but would not bake her a cake every day. This is how I feel now, anyway. Who knows if I would hold to this should the worst happen.
By the way, I ran my above hypothetical course of action by my DB coach, and she agreed with me. We all get to choose what we will or will not accept. The more I read of the pain betrayed spouses go through here, the more I’m convinced I won’t lie back and accept a PA in my M. Our wives will only love us if they respect us. They will only respect us if we respect ourselves.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
