My story is much like many others I’ve read here. W left five weeks ago, no warning, I saw no signs. Appears to be textbook WAW, but this is all so alien to me that I’m not sure I’m seeing anything clearly at this point. She simply stated that she didn’t love me anymore and that she wanted out; she was gone within the hour.
Sorry to hear this, but you're right, it sounds pretty typical.
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She has made a few comments that make me feel as though she has some doubts, but I’m trying very hard not to read too much into anything.
I'm sure she is having doubts, most WAS's do struggle with what they're doing- wondering if they're making a mistake, etc. Most of that dialog is internal though. The LBS will sometimes get a glimpse of it. You're right not to read anything into it because it doesn't mean she's thinking about coming back, just that she's struggling.
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Time and patience, right?
Lots and lots of it.
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Most of the time, I’m not sure how to GAL. When I stay in and relax, I feel like I’m supposed to be out ‘living’; when I go out and try to ‘live’ I pretty much feel like a lonely catastrophe.
GAL is VERY difficult at first. You want to just curl up at home and suffer, but if you keep forcing yourself to go out then eventually you'll start enjoying yourself in spite of your sitch and you'll WANT to go out instead of forcing yourself to. Try to find activities that allow you to meet other people especially.
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I find it very difficult at times to banish troubling thoughts, fears, and concerns. Any advice or methods I might use to help me in this area will be greatly appreciated.
Read The Happiness Trap, it was very helpful to me.
