Thanks Barb. Much of what you've written is true. I have to look at how I encouraged this...absolutely. I've told her that I'm far from guiltless. As far as Friday nights, that wasn't our "date night". I picked her up Friday nights because she had to go to another job Saturday mornings (she worked Sat and Sun around the clock caregiving and elderly lady). I would drive her and it was easier to leave from my place in the morning. Anyway, I'd started the group when she was working Friday nights at Walmart. After she'd left I asked her to join us once in awhile so we could make couple friends, she wouldn't do it. It's kind of complicated...but we would spend Sunday night and Monday night together. It just became everything was the way she needed it to be to fit her life and this was one thing I was doing for me and wanted her support. I supported her in everything she did and was kind of stunned when she was resisting the one thing I needed. Anyway, I certainly will learn from this and hopefully do better next time!
