Possible MLC - Opinions Please

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The unhappiness in the job arena is another mlc trait. She may even begin to think about changing jobs and this could go on for several years w/the job hopping. She will be looking for change in all the wrong places, when, in fact, happiness comes from within.

You are right here. She is looking at anything right now, and each day what she wants to do changes. It does not help that in her current job, I am the person she reports to most of the time, so effectively there is a controlling issue there which spills into our R.

Right now, she does see you as a friend, not a husband. Treat her as a friend, listen and validate, keep your expectations at zero and accept her for who she is today and not who she was pre-crisis. Your w is now the mirror image of the person you knew, i.e., the exact opposite.

I need to remember this as its very true. Yesterday, after I validated and gave her some 'air time', she was the closest to how she used to be in a very long time. Today we are back to the 'old new her'!

Please read the resources that Cadet provided to you. Some of the questions you have may be answered after reading them.

Very true, I do begin reading these and then skip across to look at others peoples sitches within these, which means I loose my way a little!