I know my H wouldn't "appreciate" anything I gave him - simply because it came from me. What the gift itself was wouldn't matter. I had a hard time really grasping that my H wants nothing from me, but that is in fact the case. Any gesture, any overture from you will indeed be seen as pursuit by your H and he will mover farther from you, not closer.
I sense that you are still quite fragile - understandable after all you have been through. You will heal better and faster if you detach as much as possible. Detaching is hard work, but worth it for both yourself and your M.
Give yourself a gift today. What sort of things do you like? (This is my not so subtle way of suggesting you turn your focus to YOU.)
These are heartbreaking days Lilith and you need to take care of yourself.
God bless
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
What sort of things do you like? (This is my not so subtle way of suggesting you turn your focus to YOU.)
and you need to take care of yourself.
