Great questions! He went for IC, he got out and spent time with friends, he started exercising and feeling better about himself. There was a point where we didn't communicate except for a few messages about shared finances.
At one point, about 6 mos into the separation, he asked one last time if I would reconsider. I assumed he was looking for closure and maybe looking at dating again. So instead of saying "I still don't know", I told him, quite honestly, that I missed him as my friend but not my husband.
He started dating OW about 3 weeks later. After dating her for a few weeks, he started to feel that we might be able to be friends again, none the wiser that I started to wonder about "us" almost as soon as I gave him his "closure". So when we finally met face-to-face after almost 4 months of not seeing each other, he felt some regret from my reaction to seeing him.
After meeting, we started communicating more regularly and he was still seeing OW. Then there was a conversation I had with my grandmother, who had seen my H the day before, and she was trying to tell me that he'd take me back. I argued with her, convinced that I was getting ready to have a convo about divorce...I was sure that he was going to marry OW and I was happy for him. Then one day, I told him about this convo with my grandmother...That's where my story really started
