No, HE is not. If you're hostage, it's not because of him. Be honest about this one, BRNR.
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I am trying to break free from those ties little by little
maybe this one could get a slightly higher position in the list? Just a suggestion that might help.
Keep in mind that breaking the ties is not a sudden, "snap!" kind of thing. It's more like moving grains of sand from one side of the hour-glass to the other. At some point, there are more grains on the other side than they are on the side you started with. But it's very gradual. And it takes time and effort. I suggest moving them one at a time, and keep the pace no matter what else you come across. That's how you reach that kind of goal. One grain at a time.
You are still (and I don't blame you one bit) too close to him emotionally. I get it, BRNR. I really do. But it's easier to see from this angle why you snap and bristle and get upset when he makes choices you don't like (re: the kids). He'll do that. It's his mess to make and to pick up later in life. He will and his kids will look for ways to let him pick it up later. For now, you'll need to protect them and help them process what's going on while your H is becoming the butt of all the MLC jokes in town
Go get that certification. It's good to finish things you started, no?
peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
