Chris, you wrote, "I have a lifetime of insecurity and inadequacy."
That was me.
Took a lot of hard work, introspection, and faith, but, that is not me anymore.
You gotta want it, though. Really badly. You are in charge of you. I am not going to lie, it's not for the faint of heart, but, nothing worthwhile ever is.
As far as needing help with the loneliness. You know what you have to do.
You asked, "Does anyone know how to deal with this? When you're an insecure person to begin with, then become an LBS."
The short answer is do the work. Become the person you want to be. Each day, that should be the goal. Some days you make it, some you dont, but, try each day.
Make a bucket list, meet new people, try new things. Realize that no one can make you happy but you. Understand that you may want your wife but you dont need her. There is a big difference.
And really believe that you are worthy. Each one of us is.
Obsessing will do nothing to change the situation.
