Recently Separated and Need Help

[azguy]

I think how you respond depends on what you can manage at this time. You're separated. You shouldn't feel obligated to help him or be his emotional support. He probably realizes this, but is falling into a habit of reaching out to you when he has problems.

I'd suggest thinking of this as an opportunity to practice detached caring. Help him out if you can think of ways to do so. But try to do it withou expectations that he'll appreciate it or see you differently if you do so. If you had a friend in this situation who reached out to you, you might treat them similarly.

On the other hand, I don't know the background. It is not a good idea to take this approach if you feel like you are just being used. What happens if you are there for him, and he never acknowledges it. Would you be okay with that, or resentful?

Sorry, not a very definitive answer, but maybe something to help your thoughts.