That's a very good question. I'm looking forward to others response. I would think its different on each scenario. I know for me I will obviously do a temp check on 5/5 when I tell her look forward to seeing MC on 5/7 and I look forward to her joining me. If she says no, I'm not going now. Then the writing will be on wall
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it