His a little rawer because he admitted that he expected to be happy when he left. And he is not any happier than before.
I read a study about divorce and happiness....I'll drop in the guts of it:
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The study found that on average unhappily married adults who divorced were no happier than unhappily married adults who stayed married when rated on any of 12 separate measures of psychological well-being. Divorce did not typically reduce symptoms of depression, raise self-esteem, or increase a sense of mastery. This was true even after controlling for race, age, gender, and income. Even unhappy spouses who had divorced and remarried were no happier on average than those who stayed married. "Staying married is not just for the childrens' sake. Some divorce is necessary, but results like these suggest the benefits of divorce have been oversold," says Linda J. Waite.
Why doesn't divorce typically make adults happier? The authors of the study suggest that while eliminating some stresses and sources of potential harm, divorce may create others as well. The decision to divorce sets in motion a large number of processes and events over which an individual has little control that are likely to deeply affect his or her emotional well-being. These include the response of one's spouse to divorce; the reactions of children; potential disappointments and aggravation in custody, child support, and visitation orders; new financial or health stresses for one or both parents; and new relationships or marriages.
So I guess this isn't surprising. Too bad none of them would actually read this and think "maybe I should think this thru."
Same is true in my sitch....W is already stressing about having to pay her own bills, moving to a small apartment, and cashing out savings. I hate to even say it, but she hasn't thought about health insurance for herself yet. I can see her running so fast now, running towards a married man with two handicapped children and thinking, "This is going to be so great!" I say, have fun lady.
