Thank you Spartan, all of that makes sense...

I'm not sure if what I'm doing is working with regards to reconciliation, but it's certainly better than what it was before...

Just out of interest (and I realise I'm nowhere near there yet) but at what point should you temperature check? Any at all? I'd imagine you just wait for the WAW to initiate R conversation. Correct?

Thank you for the advice everybody - it's as always very much appreciated.


W 39 Me 33 M 9yrs
8 year old Son
ILYBINILWY - Dec 12
W moved out - Jan 2013
OM - Jan 2013
I file for D - May 2013