Hoper, Before you even consider moving out, you need to speak to an attorney to see how that will play out. Generally, when someone moves out, it can be looked as "abandoning the marriage and home". My advice, if he wants you out of his life, he can very well move out himself. It just burns me up every time I read your posting. Who the h@ll is he to tell you that you can move in w/your parents? That is so selfish of him.
Now, I'm going to say something and I'm sure others will whack me one...again, who the h@ll is he to tell you to go up into the attic and get his travel bag? If he's got a back issue, maybe he shouldn't be going away and should stay right at home and take care of that old back. I bet that old back doesn't bother him when he's w/her. I wouldn't have packed his bag for him either. You are not his mother or maid...you are his wife, the wife that he's choosing to toss aside for some twinkle twat.
The advice that I'm going to give you is this...stop being his maid and/or mother. If he wants to do things, then allow him to take care of himself, i.e., his laundry, cooking, packing and unpacking and do not put that bag back in the attic...leave it where he can look at it each and every day. He needs to learn just what he's going to be dealing w/in the day-to-day life if you are gone.
This man has some real issues w/control and manipulation. Do not allow him to treat you like yesterday's trash...you are a good person and I have to say, a saint.
Please take care of yourself and your child.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
