Thanks N72 - H is keeping me a little Hostage too. He uses the kids as a tool to some degree, and I am trying to break free from those ties little by little.
My short term goals at this time is to reduce MY debt and start saving for a different place to live, although I don't like the idea of renting. My kids and I have talked about moving and they don't want to. Honestly I don't want to either, but the memories in and of the house are enough to choke me some days and the only way out I see is to move. So yes, I have been looking at houses trying to see what would be affordable for me alone, and honestly, not really seeing much...hence more of being held hostage to some degree.
I have other goals. I want to get my book keeper certification that I started working on prior BD. It was put on hold with all that I had been dealing with. And I will try to get that back on track by the end of the month. I also want to start packing and decluttering the house as to prepare for a move of some sort (or at least get organized) so a yard sale is in order as well. So that about sums up things....it is just so much work to do.
BombOctober 2012- OW 11/28/12 -H still denies Separated 11/29/12 Own place 12/12/12 Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13 Oct 2013 - I knew I was done Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life