Update - 8 months as a "reforming" WAW

[makingmagic]

//On another note, we started a more serious conversation last night...H is researching codependent relationships. Sounds like that is one of his fears...I can see why he worries about that - he had a horrible experience with my leaving, along the lines of life was not worth living. He says he would never go to that place again, but it must still be worrying him a little.//

I was thinking about this as I was trying to fall asleep last night... you are suggesting h's emotions were a mess. What are some of the things he did in the beginning, middle, now that he thinks were good/bad to do? Did he ever move forward and give up on you? or was he hopeful and remained your friend? In the beginning, most of us LBS were pretty pathetic (im sure your h was too), did he get better or did he remain the same? At some point did you feel like you were losing him, and wondered what life without h would be like?.... many q's I know, sorry. Just trying to understand how you two are able to get to this stage from post BD.