As much of a struggle as it is, you sound like you are making progress and moving forward to a good place.
Thanks Hopeful. It's a process and I understand I'm going to have to work thru the feelings as part of that. I know I'll end up in a good place as I have grown an awful lot. But these days are the hardest.
Originally Posted By: Inside Out
BD you are some kind of strong
Hah! I don't feel strong at all. I feel like I'm losing my grip on sanity most days here lately.
More and more is unfolding. As good as the last 8-9 months have been from my perspective, W was seeing OM still and was just biding her time until the house sells. She's been running a double life to a point. She simply says "I have an evening appt for work" and then goes with OM. He seems to be separated from his W now, so they are spending a lot of time at his house. It's like trying to understand crazy....there's just no sense to most of it, so I'm trying not to think about it.
That said, we did have about an hour discussion this morning about moving forward. We talked about expectations regarding being home for the kids and at one point I said, "if you want to set up a schedule that works for the kids and allows you to see OM, I'd rather do that than have the disappearing act." She started to tell me I was crazy and I just said, "stop...there's no need any longer. I don't like your choices, but I'll support them."
I think we established a path forward. I said I wanted some consistency for the kids and D asap. We discussed some of the in and outs, but didn't really disagree on anything. We dropped the price of the house 10k and hashed thru most of the remaining household stuff.
There's definitely going to be some wake up calls. It's a little weird that she filed last July, has been seeing OM for at least 18 months, and she really has no exit plan. She is talking about moving in with her brother for the short term. No longer my problems, so I just nod my head. I guess it makes as much sense as the rest of it lol
