Fully agree!!! That's what I meant when I said sometimes things finally have to be said. Going along being friendly and pretending to be a happy family, while great at times was also hurting me deep down because I saw the other side. Assuming she remembers and didn't shut down, she knows why I'm not talking as much, acting like BF's, or pretending to be the happy cohesive family any longer. Those things are still possible in the future if she makes decisions that don't hurt me and the kids, until then I'm done pretending when it's convenient for her. What I said had nothing to do with trying to make her see what I think she's doing wrong, make her see she's hurting people, or even make her see my point of view. It was to explain the reasons I won't accept it any longer and the outcomes to her decisions.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
