I think one way to think about it is personal goals and marital goals. Where the personal goals are thing that will help you long term as you work through the mess we are going through, and the marital goals are smaller goals that we work towards every few weeks to measure our DB success.

Me: 38 W: 35
M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs
S8 D5
BD: Feb 13
Still Living Together

I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.