I have gotten much better at it, but still slip once and a while. I understand your point about not wanting to know, but for me it wasn't about catching her in the act, it was about trying to understand. The snooping involved reading her text exchanges to her closest friend, who she has a history of talking to about very personal things that she doesn't open up to me about, plus she was with her a lot in the two weeks before she came to talk to me, while I was out of town. Also, looking at her friends and likes on FB, and Googling the unfamiliar ones (that is how I pieced together the Likes and Comments she made to tattoo-boy, by going on his FB and Twitt).I was just hoping for an insight, but I know it was wrong and I need to respect her space. If for no other reason, because I wouldn't like it. Plus, you are right, it becomes a non-productive distraction and obsessions.
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
