Plan B

[FloydMan]

She is two different people. it sadly needs to be her conclusing of her mixed up life right now...like an alcoholic. I struggled with hiding xW wife affairs and 3 therapists (Including 2 we saw) wonder what the heck I protect her for. It hurts us to protect them and is the only reason they feign the niceties. Hence her fake statements of you hope to be friends and you or be angry. She is controlling your emotion and your ability to detach. I have since let certain people know, and not to turn them against her but, rather protect myself as suggested by psych and lawyer and friends and family thatu know. People were accusing me of being the one that strayed and did wrong so only people that bring that up, I correct them. I have been blessed with so much Support and a weight has been lifted off. It is not my shame as I was taking it all in as such. It is damaging as psych says and psych also explained that it will free me of any guilt I harbour inside that is misguided. It has worked. Protecting her will only enable her to excuse the behaviour and validate it. Just don't expect her back if you do. It has liberating me a bit and psych is proud of me for knowing my boundaries and not be held hostage to her misdeeds. Taking all the blame is not healthy. My xW has done the same about telling people I am crazy. That is not fair and is bullying. just tell the truth without slamming her and let those make their own opinions after.