Yes, you're right... I've always thought being a talker is a good thing. Something I have learned through this is therapy and self reflection is that in my case, my W was always the dominant personality, so I would try (which I didn't see at the time) to assert myself by taking charge of a discussion or an argument... When I should have been actively listening. That is one of the things I have been working on, and now that I've stopped pursuing, I'm trying to do..however, she seems to be limiting any talking right now since I stopped engaging...
