Small update:

Emailed H about expenses relating to kids. Made sure he knew it wasn't a request, but just info, as I have already paid the expenses (since he pays for most of our expenses ie 90%, I always feel he should know what I am doing with all the money smile )

He said he was tired of being broke and in the hole.

I replied " I hear ya. Separation and divorce are costly buggers, kids too!"

Not too generous of me. He admitted to feeling down and no positives today. So I replied with a kids are awesome, you should feel good to be their Dad email.

I, on the other hand, feel good. Maybe because I am responsible or becoming so, for my own happiness....