NILWY - There is this "chemistry" b/w us

[Kim65]

Thanks AS for giving me some pointers on quoting and I am looking forward to coming off moderation!!

I still don't understand why a lack of fighting or arguing is a sign of lack of communication in an R. I know it can clear the "air" and shake the "poop" from the sheets as my dad used to say!

But in all honesty we would sit and "talk" about what was bothering us. At best we would have a heated discussion that lasted a couple of minutes.

I grew up listening to drunken yelling, arguing and verbal abuse. When people argue they can say things that are hurtful and that that they didn't really mean but once said it's not forgotten. I don't see it as being helpful at all.... Although I know It's not good to let things build up without saying something!!

I'm finding it a struggle to detach completely from H at the moment as I move out in 2 weeks and I just want us to enjoy each others company while I'm still here at home. Don't get me wrong I'm doing my best to act "as if". When I move out I plan on going "dark" and hope that this will cause him to think more about life with out me. I would like some advice as to how "dark" I should go??.. Any ideas??

And "AS" your so right about friends and family, they mean well and they just don't want me not to hurt anymore... They just don't really understand what I'm doing. I'm now also reading The Divorce Remedy and finding it help full..

Thanks again