Say What??

[2chiquitos]

NLW-ugh! I hate that feeling. I hope you also find something to relieve that tension.

IO-non negotiable boundaries. That's what it is. I have to be clear about it, to myself.

Journaling--
I had a talk with H tonite about parenting stuff. I realize that I am very adamant about the kids having a nighttime routine. I brought it up and he was defensive from the start. I knew I must've said it wrong or missed something.

Came to find out he felt that I hadn't appreciated all the work he had been doing these past couple months. Since I started working evenings, he handles the evening "routine" and I didn't start the talk with affirmations (remember his LL-WOA!)

I struggle with these conversations since I don't know how to have constructive talks. I used to expect it to go my way and if it didn't, it wasn't productive. I'm learning to find balance.

I found myself saying, ok, well then what do you think should change? (in a nonjudgemental way).

I'm hoping this talk will help ease the tension I'm feeling since it's one of the topics I've been holding back on having.

I noticed that even turning on the wrong street builds up the tension.