Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part IV)

[stilllookingup]

Ugh I didn't until few days ago you had started this new thread after Retrouville and reading it with a smile until yesterday. I'm so sorry it's taking a worse turn.
But I love how you are not giving up just yet.

I think it's great that you are going to try new approach. I remember when I first started DB-ing I detached and tried to be mysterious but it wasn't working for my H. He seemed more distant and I felt like he was doing the same to get back at me. With an unfortunate event (his beloved grandpa passed away) involved in Feb, I completely changed. I hugged him many times a day, I let him know where I was and what time I was coming home, what I was doing with friends, hugged him every morning before he went to work. And I noticed he was so much closer. He hugged me back really tight and long.

He left anyway but he explained to me he needed to do this and I agree with him 100% that he (we) needed this separation. I'm still hoping for R down the road but I'm truly enjoying my time alone for now.

Anyway what I wanted to say is that I don't know how he left if I hadn't tweaked my DB-ing in Feb. He might have left with much different impressions of me.