Taking a step back-a fresh start

[cbtdad]

Here is a link to my last thread:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2336278&page=14

So for the first month and half this board I was very happy with the improvements in myself and how I was feeling about me.
Over the last 2 weeks since the discovery of OM I have not been happy with my actions and not been happy with me. I do not like what I have seen, so it's time for a fresh start.

I am going back and treating me finding out about OM as another BD.
Here are my things I will not do:

- No Snooping!!
- No R talk
- No sarcasm
- No pursuing
- No temp checking

Here are my 180's:
- I will not raise my voice or engage in any arguments. I will walk way if need be
- I will continue to spend quality time and have fun with son
- I will not go out to get "drunk"
- I will do "acts of service" within reason
- I will listen and validate

Here are my GAL activities:
- Play golf once every 2 weeks
- Continue to work of relationship with Christ and church
- Take piano lessons
- say "yes" to all invites within reason
- Read every night
- Volunteer


I want the real me back! I am getting out of his fog.
As a wise man told me, this is a chance to change your life and become a better man and a better father. A by product of that may be a chance to salvage your marriage.
Time to get it done. Patience Patience Patience!