Not quite success yet! But improving all the time!
Yes, H is currently in a position to decide about R. Because he isn't at the point where he's ready to say we're working on things yet - still "spending time together".
There were times I missed him for sure. As for thoughts - I thought until I knew what I wanted for sure, I couldn't open that door. I was convinced he would be happier without me!
So I never called while we were apart, no texting even. A few messages back & forth via Facebook, that's it.
I WAS afraid that things would go back to the same old thing and that fear remained until I realized that I had stuff to work on too.
Piece of advice - Don't try to make the fear go away...try to understand where it's coming from! Hard, I know...
