Kaff, WH, Busting, Subguy,
Thanks for helping me through this.

I got this email from him late yesterday:

"I would like you to specify which days you will allow me to see the children."

This time, I didn't argue about the fact that i have never 'disallowed' him to see them.

Likewise, I did not do my standard: "Anytime you want. Just ring them and make some arrangements with them."

Nor did I remind him that D is nearly 18 years old, and that both she and S14 have active social lives.

I just said "For the next couple weeks, how about Saturdays? - D17 is working every other day of the week during school holidays."

I got this email by way of reply:

" I will see the children on Wednesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays. Please refrain from making plans on those days without consulting me first."

Saturdays is the day he plays football and goes out drinking with the 20 year olds. Obviously not convenient.

The kids say he can go whistle; they will not go with him.

This is not going to pan out well.
I feel like I'm being set up, but I'm not sure what for.

Any ideas how I can navigate through this without too much drama?